The Phrase "Never Have Children" Hits Differently Now

So, I was off today, and I sat at home, doing what I love to do, which is to learn as much as I possibly can. And I sat and did some reflecting on certain things and a memory popped into my mind about a Father telling me “Never have children.” And, of course, at the time he was just being funny, because his children were going nuts. But, now that I’m older, it no longer is a sarcastic statement. It seems more like a warning, or just really good advice.

Growing up, I never felt pressured to have children of my own. I dunno if it was because the parents I had didn’t really care either way, or since I’m a guy, the last thing on my mind is having children, but I never actually felt like I had to have a wife and children. I mean, I grew up in a houeshold mostly comprised of men. The only woman who was in our household growing up was Mom, but that was short-lived due to the divorce. But as a man, I never was really pressured to have children, and in all honesty, I never really wanted children. I mean, I’m 36 years old and I love my life the way it is. I love my freedoms, I love being able to sleep at like 3 pm, I can basically do anything I want. I have a job, but that’s just normal day to day stuff. If I’m not working I’m either sleeping or doing more research and what say you.

But nowadays….that phrase seems more relevant than ever. I mean, growing up, even though I would get straight A’s, I hated the educational system with a passion. But now that I’m older, the educational system anymore seems like such a joke, and not a very funny joke might I add. It’s extremely disturbing, the things they’re exposing our kids to nowadays. I mean, when I was a teen, the worst thing I was exposed to was internet p*rn, but shoot, whenever you’re a teen, you’re exposed to that stuff all the time anyways. Hell, even teen women would look at it. I’m not saying that’s a good thing, cause it’s not. It gives you a false image of what sex really looks like, not every guy and girl has a perfect body, and we’re not these bodies anyways, we’re eternal beams of light more or less. But that was as bad as it got with me.

But nowadays, there’s so much more to worry about, and some of it’s just a tad ridiculous. I mean, to be a parent nowadays, you honestly have to be on top of everything when it comes to your child, because now schools think they can take on the responsibility of the parent, which is so wrong! Schools are there to teach the child different subjects like Math, Social Studies, Science, etc… But the values was usually taught by the parent. But now, it’s like schools are getting involved in the values part, and it’s like, that’s a parents job, not the schools job. The parents are the ones who teach their children right from wrong, not the school.

But, what really ticks me off more than anything, is the amount of care that is given to our children at school. And, I’m more upset at public schools than I am private schools. Public schools get help from the government, whereas private schools are purely funded by the parents, so when I say this, this is more aimed towards public schools than private schools. But, what gets me is the amount of care that goes into helping our kids, because that is non-existent anymore. You would think with all of these shootings happening, and not just the Charlie Kirk one, but the other one in a Church of all places, you would think with all of these shootings happening that schools would be a little bit more mindful of beefing up security. And yet, I’ll drive past a school when it is in session, and once again, I don’t see security guards at all the entrances and exits of the school, and in some cases, I don’t even see security cameras. And again, I’m not really upset with private schools, because those schools do really struggle to make ends meet sometimes, especially if the parish is small. But, you would think with all the crazy sh*t happening that the public schools would beef up their security, but they don’t! Like, as a parent I’d be furious! Like, to me that is straight up inhumane! And then you have the insane LGBTQ+ issue, where you have biological teen boys going into women’s only spaces, and vice-versa which is honestly insane!

And then you have the lovely School Board Meetings, and what a complete and utter waste of a parent’s time. Seriously, there’s no point in attending those meetings. I’ve only been to one, and that was because an older woman who basically takes care of her granddaughter (cause her daughter is dead, and the Father is nowhere to be seen) wanted me to come to one to support her, and I do support her cause she’s an absolutely beautiful woman who is so kind and loving. And, what I saw was so disgusting and vile. You had these parents who would go up to the podium, basically telling the school board that their kids are basically reading pornographic books (or very graphic books), and that they’re promoting sexuality at an age where kids are just starting to develop (like gay couples, you get where I’m going with this). And what I saw was absolutely astounding, because a vast majority of parents that were there, were there because they want their kid to just be taught different subjects and not values and sexuality. And it was like the school board would “reluctantly” listen to these parents complain and wouldn’t comment other than “Ok, next person.” I remember when I left that School Board Meeting, me and my elderly friend talked and I said “How long has this been going on?” And she’s like “Oh…ever since covid, it was like the school decided to make decisions for our children.” And I said “I mean, pardon my French, but that’s f*cking ridiculous! I felt like my time was being absolutely wasted, don’t you feel the same way?” And she said “I do…I’ve gone to so many of these meetings, and nothing ever happens.” But, the story ended on a good note, cause even though she was this kids grandmother, she was also a retired school teacher, so she basically took it upon herself to teach her granddaughter, cause her own school thought they knew better than her!

I have so much respect for parents, cause I couldn’t do it. To be a parent nowadays is a very hard thing to do. My friend whose Wiccan has 3 kids of her own (1 living with her Mother, the other 2 living with her), and she is struggling so much as a single parent. Like today, she got so upset, so very upset, and I’m kind of her soundboard, because I have a comfortable relationship with negativity. My brothers are amazed at me, cause our Mother tends to be very negative all the time, and I can literally sit there for like 8 hours on end, listening to nothing but negativity, but that’s because I convert it to positive energy all the time, so negativity never really bothers me. And she’s trying so hard for her kids, because she loves those kids to death, and I just feel for her. And with the economy the way it is, and how prices just keep jumping, it’s tough to raise children in this kind of environment, and yes, her kids are very much little. Next year her littlest one will be in kindergarten.

I know a lot of you may disagree with most of what I say, but I’m telling you, there is something so off about our reality. And, what I’m about to say might be controversial, but I’m honestly convinced that the reason why there are so many inhumane things in our reality is because, some of it is done by either Reptilians or Bad Aliens, because most huemans I know aren’t this sick-headed. I think a lot of the inhumane and terrible things that go on, on this planet, are done by Aliens and Reptilians who honestly do not give a d*mn about us huemans. You just don’t see it or hear about it, cause Reptilians and some Aliens can shapeshift and look like us. I don’t care if that sounds crazy, it just makes sense….cause true huemans have Gods laws written on their heart….this has to be the work of something not of this world (or Reptilians who have zero empathy for anyone).

I agree with that. I wouldn’t say, “Never have children,” but I would say, “Know that it’s a hard vocation.” I think it’s harder nowadays than when I was a kid, even though it was no picnic then either.

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Hi Literalman,

I know….I dunno about you but my childhood compared to childhood nowadays was relatively normal LOL! I mean, when I was young, building forts was still a thing, and camping out in your front yard was a thing too. Now kids have tablets and phones, and I just look at that and I’m like “What a boring childhood. Go outside and use your imagination!” LOL!

I disagree. Like, divorce, I don’t think it is good to joke about such things. I’m not saying one can’t joke about these things, but that it is not good to joke about these things.

I also don’t care for when I hear someone say, “Some people should not be allowed to breed.”

There are good reasons where it is prudent not to reproduce, but some reasons are more valid than others.

Being a Parent is a sacrifice, but being a Parent is very rewarding. And those who have never had children will often make judgements about what it must be like to have children.

I do not trust individuals over 40 who do not have children. I’m not saying that you must have children, but I think you lack an important life experience and lose credibility. There are talking heads, who claim to be of a particular political bend (where family is one of the top values they espouse), but then they don’t have children themselves.

On the other political spectrum are those who say, “I could never bring a child into this world.” Often this is a remark made by someone who consumes fear-pơrn all day long or who wastes so much time dooms-scrolling.

My daughters make me laugh every single day. I Pray for them and my Wife every morning and I am blessed to have them in my life.

Even before I was Married and had children of my own, I always had a heart for children. The only movies that have ever made me cry were movies that involve children. I also feel for boys who do not have a good relationship with their fathers. Maybe it is because my own Dad struggled with alcoholism.

I have mentored a couple boys. One has never met his Dad and the other knows his Dad, but his Dad was not the best influence. The little guys are now grown and I try to check in on them every now and again and I am proud of the young men that they have become. Are their lives perfect? No, but they are good kids (young adults).

Don’t let fear scare you from wanting to have children. And if you have children, don’t joke that you wish you didn’t have them.

I was worried that my Wife would not be a good mother, because she never liked other people’s kids, nor had she ever changed a diaper. I grew up babysitting and I worked in the nursery at Church, so I had changed a million diapers. And my Wife turned out to be an amazing Mom! When they are her own children, it turns out she loves them : )

And this goes back to what I was saying about individuals who don’t know what it is like to have children of their own making a judgement on not having children. Again, I’m not saying that everyone should have children, but don’t try to parent the world as a replacement to having children. Fifty year old, childless, female, Stand-up Comedians often will do this. I don’t want to name names, as I refrained from naming names earlier when I was talking bout political pundits who do not have children.

“Children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward.” — Psalm 127:3

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I actually agree, especially if you have children. That just causes unnecessary tension.

Yes. I’m talking about the 1960s. We camped in the back yard with friends. And there was a wooded lot across from another friend’s house, and the man who owned it didn’t mind if we played there. Maybe it’s fear of lawsuits now, but I can’t imagine people being so free with their property today. We built snow forts, we played in the park, and when we were old enough we were Scouts. Playing outside was our normal fun. We watched a lot of TV, but not in the daytime except Saturday mornings.

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