Hello everyone! I hope you all are enjoying yourselves, now that Christmas is just around the corner!
I thought today I would show you how to get rid of most of your triggers. What do I mean by triggers? Anything that evokes a negative emotional response (Normally a negative response like someone saying or doing something that angers you).
But before I do that, there’s a few things to keep in mind. The first thing I want you to innerstand is The Law of One. This is a Universal Law, meaning this applies everywhere in our known Universe. The Law of One (which you could consider the Law of Mirroring) states that “We are One with everything, and everything is One with Us.” Following that statement says “Therefore everything going on in our external is reflective of what is going on internally.” One way to look at this is, imagine every person on this planet as a mirror. Remember, everything that happens to you externally is a reflection of what is going on internally, so pretending everyone is a mirror is one way to look at it.
So what does this have to do with triggers? It’s very simple. Think of all the people you are friends with. Why are you friends with those people? Well the answer is because, those people emit qualities or behaviors that are similar to how you are. In other words, they reflect the good parts of you. And the same thing happens in the opposite way, which is, people you have a bad social interaction with usually exhibit behaviors or qualities you do not like about yourself.
So, keeping that in mind, there’s no point in worrying about our good social interactions right? If we get along with certain people, then there’s no need to do inner work regarding those interactions. But what about the bad interactions we have with people, that tend to trigger us? Well, read on.
Most of the problems that occur in our adult lives, occur due to trauma we’ve experienced when we were kids. The best way to address these problems (at least the best way I’ve been able to address these problems) is through inner-child work. What is inner-child work? Inner-child work is simply healing the child within us. Every single one of us has experienced trauma when we were children, even those of us who had “a good childhood” has still experienced trauma in some way, shape, or form.
So, in order to innerstand why we’ve all experienced childhood trauma, is to innerstand the mind of a child. When you are born, your brain hasn’t fully developed. So, the way that babies and even children learn what is bad and what is good is through feeling.
But here’s where we run into a problem. The way a child experiences trauma is through feeling. So for example, if you go to a grocery store and a child is reaching for a candy bar, and you take the candy bar from that child’s hand and put it back and say “Sweetie, I don’t have enough money for that candy bar.” And let’s say the child really wanted that candy bar so bad. Well because it learns through emotions, let’s say the child starts to cry or get upset. This is an example of how a child is traumatized. Anytime your child gets angry or cries, is an indicator that the child is experiencing trauma.
So, you’re probably wondering “Well shoot, children can get mad and upset about anything at the drop of the hat.” And yes, you’re correct, children can get traumatized over the simplest of things, but they’re children. Their brains aren’t fully developed, so certain things they’re not going to have an innerstanding of compared to an adult.
Now, let’s use some common sense. If a stove is on and a child reaches out to touch the top of an oven, the loving thing for a parent to do is to grab that hand and say “Sweetheart, you can’t touch the top of that stove, it’s hot and it’ll burn off your finger.” And let’s say the child starts crying and gets fussy. Here’s the thing, yes the child is experiencing trauma, but sometimes it’s unavoidable. No parent in their right mind would want their child’s hand to burn off, so sometimes when a child experiences trauma, it’s unavoidable. And that’s ok…children have to learn the difference between right and wrong somehow. But sometimes parents cause trauma that didn’t need to happen to begin with.
So what does unnecessary trauma look like? Well let’s say a little girl is playing outside and she trips and falls and scrapes her leg. And let’s say she starts crying and goes to Mom and says “Mommie, I fell down and I have a boo boo!” And Mommie laughs a little bit and says “Ok sweetie, let’s go and get a band-aid” And as Mom laughs, the kid cries even more and screams and says “It’s not funny Mommie!” But Mom keeps laughing anyways. Now, as an adult, we can see that Mom is doing the right thing. She’s going to get a band-aid for her child. And we know that the Mother means no harm, she’s laughing because it’s a little scrape. And yes, as adults we can clearly see what’s going on. But that little girl doesn’t see the whole picture, and by Mommy laughing, she thinks Mommy is laughing at something that really upset her. This is an example of unnecessary trauma, because it’s not like the little girl did anything wrong. All she wanted was a band-aid, and by her Mother laughing, really hurt that little girl.
Parents, you and I know that the list of what can upset a little kid is big. Little kids can get really upset at the smallest of things. That’s why it’s important for a parent to teach their kids right from wrong, but to prevent from causing unnecessary trauma for the child. Yes, again, trauma sometimes is inevitable when your child could get seriously hurt from doing something, but if you can prevent unnecessary trauma from happening you should.
So now that we know how childhood trauma works, we can do some Inner Child Work to heal those unnecessary childhood wounds. So, let’s go with the example above about a little girl who fell down and scraped her leg. And let’s say, she has fallen down several more times, and every single time her Mother laughed at her while applying a bandage to the scrape. So, because this has happened so many times, let’s say the child stops crying over a wound, but the Mother still laughs when it happens. Let’s say that little girl feels a little betrayed, because these wounds really hurt. And let’s say that as the girl grows up, she looks at getting physically wounded as a point of weakness. So anytime she experiences physical pain, she suppresses what she feels because she doesn’t want to look like she’s a wuss.
So, what that girl should do, now that she’s 18 is to do some inner child work. Let’s say, yesterday, she fell into a thorn bush, and had cuts and scrapes all over the place. And let’s say her friend looked at her and looked surprise but kind of chuckled a little bit. And let’s say the little girl got triggered and said “Will you just go home?! You’re not helping this situation.” Well, let’s say the girl took that situation, and let’s say the negative emotion she wants to work on is betrayal, because when that situation happened, and her friend looked at her and laughed, she felt betrayed. So, what she would do is go into a quiet room, and she would at first focus on her breathing. So you could do something like breathe in for 6 counts, hold for 2 counts, and breathe out for 10 counts. And she would just keep doing that. Why should she focus on her breath? Because the goal is to get to a state where you don’t have random thoughts entering into your head. Basically, you get to a point where the noise in your head dies down and you are in complete control of your own thoughts. You also want to be in a state of total relaxation. A good way to figure out if you’re relaxed or not is, if you start yawning, that’s your sign that you are relaxed.
So you focus on your breath till you have complete control of your thoughts and you’re relaxed. Once you do both of those things, the next thing you want to do is to focus on a negative emotion that you felt during an interaction of yours that didn’t go well. Taking the example above, your friend laughed at you when you came back from falling into a thorn bush. So, in this case, you might choose to focus on the negative emotion of betrayal. So, say either out loud or in your mind “I would like to go back to the first time I’ve ever felt betrayed.” And then, you wait. Eventually, what will happen, is that memory will surface and you’ll start to remember when you first felt betrayed. So, in this example, the girl who fell into a thorn bush, remembers as a child that her Mother would laugh at her whenever she got hurt. So what she would do is, she would recognize and integrate. What does that mean? She would recognize the feeling of betrayal. How would she do that? She would relive the memory of being that little girl who fell down and scraped her knee, and how when her Mother laughed at her, how she felt so betrayed. This is called recognition, meaning, you recognize how you felt at that moment. So after you recognize that, now you heal and integrate. So what you would do is you would imagine your present self in that past memory, and you would give the smaller version of yourself what you needed at that moment to feel good again. So, in this example, let’s say that what your past self needed at that moment was someone who was genuinely concerned about your injury. So, you would go and get the band-aid yourself and kiss the scrape on your knee, and you would hug yourself and say “It’s ok, I’m here now. I see you. I am present. I love you!”
So, how exactly are you hacking your reality when you do this. Well, going back to what I said in the beginning, think of everyone around you as a mirror. Again, your external is a reflection of what is going on internally. So, if you heal a part of yourself, your external is going to reflect that. And here’s the cool part, childhood trauma is like a weed. If you pull a weed up from its roots, it won’t ever grow in that same area ever again. Same thing applies with childhood trauma. If you can heal the trauma at its root, every single memory associated with that trauma gets healed as well, because you’re attacking that trauma at the root, which is your childhood. And because you did this, the next time someone laughs at you because you hurt yourself, it’s not going to trigger you anymore. Remember triggers are simply trauma responses. So, if you heal and integrate childhood trauma, your triggers will cease to exist.
Now, a few things to keep in mind:
1.) Just because you get rid of all of your childhood trauma, does not mean that your adult trauma will be healed too. As an adult, you’re going to experience trauma. But, if you heal the child in you, you’ve already done half the work already. Now you just need to work on your adult trauma, which will probably be a lifetime thing. But at least with childhood trauma out of the way, adult trauma will be easier to heal.
2.) This is how you hack reality. If our external is an indicator of what is going on internally, if you heal something internally, your external is going to reflect that. So the more trauma you work on, the less triggers you will have. So the things that used to upset you, won’t upset you as much anymore. Remember, everyone has Free Will. So, you cannot control what others do. People will do what they want to do, regardless of how you feel. So even though you can’t control what others do to you, you can control how you react. And by doing these exercises, you’ll find that you don’t get easily triggered anymore. And, in fact, because we live in a Universe where we attract what we put out, the more we work on ourselves, our reality has to shift. Because again, your external is a reflection of what is going on internally. So you might find yourself in a situation where you attract more people who don’t trigger you as much. Because you did the inner work, your reality will now start to reflect the healing you’ve done.
3.) This will not happen overnight. Your reality will not shift overnight. It all depends on how much inner work you do. If you work hard at trying to heal your childhood traumas, and really work at it, eventually your reality WILL SHIFT! But you’ve got to be patient, and you have to work at it. My reality is amazing….I don’t have to deal with people I don’t wanna be around. This is an example of how you can “test” something. This is what I have done myself to prove to myself (and really to others) that what I’m talking about is indeed true! Because, if what I say holds any truth, you should be able to replicate what I’ve done and achieve a similar result. Think of your external as an HUD (or a Heads Up Display). So if something weird is going on in your external, the way to fix that is to go within, or to work on yourself. Because again, according to the Universal Law of One, whatever is going on internally will reflect externally. So, just have patience, things will turn around for the better, just be patient with yourself!
4.) And finally, this is the one of the most important things you have to do to truly see any result. You have to believe, not just consciously, but subconsciously, that doing this will work. Because, even just a little bit of doubt, can be the reason why you don’t see a change. Something that is absolutely paramount in our Universe is the power of belief. Here’s another little tip, cause again, your external reflects your internal. So, if you are a big believer in Catholicism, then your reality is going to show you evidence that Catholicism is real. Something that has helped me was #1 to modify my core beliefs. And #2, to use repetition to get my subconscious to truly believe something will work.
Thanks, EarthsStudent, and the anologies help in understanding.
How to get rid of triggers, condensed version.
So true, EarthsStudent, good works of the flesh from Sacrifice through Penance forgiven becoming again in all Creation One Holy Spirit Family One God in being, I believe.
Thanks EarthsStudent, and to me, we become again from the Intelligence and The Mind of the Holy Family.
When one speaks to Catholics, definition of the Holy Spirit leaves one in confusion, I believe.
As a Person The Holy Spirit Replaces Mary in the Trinity and if one sees the Holy Spirit as the Real Family, Mary is always together with the Father and The Son.
And we are not arguing the Faith of the Catholic Church just generalizing the Logic of the Holy Family becoming again in all.
Manifested from the Power of The Holy Spirit Family Incorruption unable to fail becoming undeflied in all cases from the fulfilled faith and morality through the Christ for all mankind becoming again in all Creation One Family, In Union becoming One God in being.
What I am about to say may “trigger” some readers, but I will begin by saying that words like “trigger” or “trauma” are buzzwords (of pseudoscience). I can tell if someone has either been to way too much therapy or has minored in psychology in College by just these two terms.
My Wife and I watch Married at First Sight and so many young people today make life (and relationships) harder than they need to be. It seems that the couples that use these terms get in their own way of having a good Marriage.
A few things that I might agree with you is the part where you said, “People you have a bad social interaction with usually exhibit behaviors or qualities you do not like about yourself.” For instance, when it comes physical attributes, I do not find individuals with dark hair and blue eyes attractive. I find them creepy looking. Though I had very blonde hair as a kid, as I have aged, my hair has gotten darker (and I do have blue eyes). Am I creeped out by my mirror image? Perhaps. I am also sometimes annoyed by individuals who exhibit similar qualities to my own in social situations. I don’t realize it until I actually describe what I don’t like about this individual that I actually recognize that I am describing myself
Also when it comes to attraction, I find this interesting. I worked with a girl who was attracted to me, but I had a crush on her friend. A few years later, the girl who liked me’s younger brother began dating my cousin. I am fascinated by this. Why was her little brother also attracted to someone in my family tree? I’m open to your thoughts on this.
I believe real trauma exists. I just think too many from this younger generation call everything trauma. Where-as my generation tend to be annoyed by victimhood mentality. Yes, bad things happen and it sucks, but it is part of life. It does not define who we are, but what I am hearing you say is that it does identify who one is. I would not deny that bad things can contribute to how one makes choices in life, but to make this your identity (which is also a thing that young people, of any generation, search for — identity. And what this search often leads to is one falling further from who God created them to be.
We talk a lot today about influencers. When I was growing up, everyone wanted to be famous, but now kids want to be influencers. What is the difference? Is there a difference? I think the big difference is that most of the famous people we were influenced by, were under someone else’s control, but the influencers today have a desire to control others. Neither is good.
In your example of a child not getting a candy bar. A child not getting whatever they want is not trauma. To call this trauma is to weaken the word when someone is truly victimized. It’s like how some call anyone they disagree with “a Nazi” or “a racist.” When you actually encounter a real Nazi or real racism, this weakens the claim (which is a form of injustice). Similarly, I see Christians calling everything or anyone who disagrees with them (usually politically) “demonic.” This too weakens the claim when one encounters the truly demonic.
So what happens when spoiled children grow up to be politicians or activists? They claim to throw a tantrum when they don’t get what we can’t afford that they want. But, instead of crying, they protest, riot, or commit violence and vandalism. Or in the case of politicians act irresponsibly (spending money they don’t have, which causes inflation and weakens the value of the dollar).
In your analogy of the child who is about to touch the burning hot stove, touching the stove would be traumatic! Desiring to touch the hot stove is a disordered desire (something that is not good for us).
I think your third analogy about the little girl who scrapes her knee illustrates the importance of having a father and a mother in the home. A father (generally) creates a thicker skin for the child, so that as she grows up, she can overcome scrapes in her life. A mother’s natural response (again, generally speaking) is to comfort and console. Both are good and attributes of God. He is protector and strength, but also comforter and consoler. So rather than mirror one another, the healthy thing is to mirror God.
The lives of the Saints are better forms of influence and fame. They are often famous for their humility. And sometimes the way in which they have died is truly traumatic, but also heroic.
When I was a kid, my brothers learned very quick not to ask me if I was okay when I got hurt. No, I’m not okay, but I will be! Asking me if I was okay, was not helping, but would make me angry. This is when it comes to physical pain. Emotional pain might be different. Sometimes healing comes from being asked “if you are okay,” when you are not okay. Wasn’t there a popular song called, “It’s okay to be not okay?” I didn’t care for that song. Although, I do think it is part of the human experience to “not be okay” at times. But, God does not want us to remain there nor should we make it our identity.
Your recommendation of (would transcendental meditation be the correct term for what you are describing) putting yourself back in a past moment and then tending to your younger self as yourself now, seems to imply that you know better than God does about what you needed and need now. Though it is true that you might know better than someone else (because you know yourself better than others do), it still does not recognize that God knows us better than we know ourselves.
What I think heals is recognizing the reality of the situation. The little girl’s Mom was not laughing at her. This was just how the little girl perceived it. However, this can sometimes be perceived by individuals who hold your views as “victim blaming,” which is not the reality of what I mean. What I am actually saying here is that the little girl is not a victim. Now, in other more serious situations, where the reality is that the girl truly is a victim, then the healing comes from not letting what has been wrongly done to you define you. And the greatest healing comes from uniting our wounds with Christ’s suffering. For He is a true victim and an offering. And what He offers each and every one of us is perfect healing. We were never meant to do this on our own.
If trauma is suffering, God never promised that we would be free from trauma. But, what He offers us is the answer to suffering. A life in Christ Jesus gives our suffering meaning.
I don’t know that we ought to “hack reality,” but rather accept reality (that which is true, in spite of our own perceptions) and not let what others have done to us define whom we are. It is not within ourselves (nor in others) that we ought to look to find our identity, but in God, who loves us more than we could ever love ourselves (even if we love ourselves a little too much — I’m talking to myself here : )
I’m not saying that what you have suggested here cannot help someone. And, in fact, it may help someone, so thank you for your perspective. Jesus is the way, the truth, and the life (John 14:6).
This is a perfect example of what these 7 families want us to do. Here’s the deal….labels in the grand scheme of things really do not matter. I only know the English language Cade, and unfortunately the English language makes it extremely difficult to accurately describe certain things. If saying these “buzzwords” bother you, than replace them with words that make better sense to you. I’m more concerned about someone’s actions than I am someone’s words. Word usage really doesn’t matter. If I die, it’s not like I gain superpowers or get some award for “correct word usage.” So, in the grand scheme of things, language is just a way to express a thought, cause no one’s getting special treatment in the afterlife for using the “correct” words. This is a tactic the 7 families have used to further divide people. It’s silly…they’re words….lol.
Sounds like a reality t.v. show lol. I don’t watch shows like that, I can see that in my hometown, I don’t need a television to see it lol.
This is why I absolutely love the way Spirituality works. My belief system is all about self-accountability. The reason why you get into situations where your interaction with someone causes you to be triggered (again if you don’t like the word triggered, than replace it with something else), is because that’s the Universe’s way of telling you that you have a part of you that needs to be healed. If you subscribe to the belief that we live in a Matrix, then this idea makes sense. You really are in total control of your environment, you just have to know how this reality works. Think of life like a video game, and think of the people around you as computer players, and whenever you get into a disagreement with someone, you take HP damage (HP meaning “Health Point” damage). And the only way to get passed a level is to work on healing the parts of you that are begging you to be healed. The Universe is very user-friendly, and everyday the Universe is trying to help you become the best version of you. Your external reality works as an indicator of what it is you need to work on. It’s actually pretty genius how this reality is set up when you think about it. The 3rd Dimension is structured for learning, and you can figure out some of life’s biggest questions by testing things out in your external.
As far as the physical traits go, well there could be something to that. I was really referring more to what it is you talk about with someone, or something that someone does that you find ugly. But I suppose physical traits could work in this particular context too.
Oh I could do up another whole post about just attraction. I will try to be brief, but basically, when you are attracted to someone, you tend to be attracted to people who, if you can make the relationship work, will heal some of the internal wounds you carry. Now, something to remember is, surface level things are an illusion. So, sometimes you could be attracted to someone who is just nice to look at but if you were to ever get involved with them could end up in a total disaster. This is where your divine gifts of intuition and discernment come into play. You should read about my formula for Unconditional Love Cade. It’s there where I delve into how to get a partner that you can count on for life. It’s in this forum somewhere, but it’ll have Unconditional Love in the title.
Well, that certainly wasn’t my intent. I guess I could kind of see where you’re going, but, the goal is to heal your triggers. But I think I know what you’re talking about, so correct me if I’m wrong, but are you referring to the “integration and healing” aspect of what I said?
Lemme try to further explain why integrating and healing a negative emotion is something that needs to happen. Huemans, just like everything on Earth, have what I call a “dualistic nature” to them. In other words, Huemans are a mix of good and bad. No hueman is 100% good or 100% bad, but instead are varying degrees of both. Some people might show more of the bad than the good, and vice-versa, but every hueman is a mix of both. And every hueman has certain qualities about themselves that they don’t particularly care for. For example, some huemans don’t like the fact that they’re vain, while other huemans do not like to cry because they find it to be a moment of weakness. And the reason why they don’t like these particular things about them, is because, during childhood they were taught that those parts of who they are are “bad.” Children love, and they love fiercely, and whenever they upset Mom and Dad, they don’t like it. So, what they end up doing is they end up suppressing the parts that Mom and Dad deem bad, and they do this because they themselves deem those traits as bad, because showing those traits illicit a negative response from the parents.
So, what I’m saying here is basically, there are parts of yourself that you have disowned, or thrown to the wayside, because growing up you were taught that those parts of you were bad. However, all you’re doing is fracturing yourself. You’re trying to ignore the bad parts of you. So, because huemans are a mix of good and bad, by ignoring the bad and only striving for the good, you’re basically walking around “pretending” to be ok, when all you’re doing is fracturing yourself. Part of becoming a “whole” hueman is to recognize and heal the parts of you that you find undesirable. I’m not saying that it’s ok to do bad things, nor am I advocating for someone to do something stupid such as break the law. But what I’m saying is, you’re doing yourself more harm than good by not healing the parts of yourself that you deem bad. So, when you do recognize, heal, and integrate the bad parts of yourself, you’re becoming “whole” again. You’re looking at the bad parts of you, but instead of saying those parts are bad, all you’re doing is healing those hurt parts of yourself and acknowledging that yes, this is a part of me that I’m not proud of, but because I did the healing needed to make me “whole” again, I can accept that this is a part of who I am. In other words, it’s more of an acceptance, and because you healed this aspect of you, you no longer view your bad traits as a monster, because all your bad traits are is the little boy or girl inside of you that needs to be comforted. I hope this clears it up. I’m not saying your trauma defines you, I’m trying to get you to accept that there are parts of you that, while you consider them dark, aren’t necessarily dark, they’re just parts of you that need more attention and care. Hope this helps in innerstanding what my goal is here.
Well, the really sad part is, most people are under other people’s control. The only people in this life that has no one above them (except God, because let’s face it, God see’s what’s going on) are the 7 families that run this world. They don’t have to report to no one. And because you’ll never hear about these 7 families in the news, or in the media, they could hire someone to kill someone, and because these families have enormous wealth and power, the person they hired will be to blame, when really it’s these 7 families who run the show. I mean, they get away with all sorts of terrible and horrible things, but that’s because they’re so filthy rich and so powerful, that they have built a system to where they’re the true winners, cause everyone underneath them are nothing but pawns in their sick game. And yes, you and I are pawns lol.
Again Cade, it’s a word. If you don’t like the word trauma, then fill-in your own. Again, no one in the afterlife is getting an award all because there’s a better word to describe something. Again, labels don’t mean anything….it’s just another way to divide people.
And again, trauma for a child again is vastly different from an adult. Children cannot process information like adults can. Children are honest to a fault, so if they’re upset, they’re not afraid to let you know that they’re upset. It’s up to the parent to point out to the child what is truly right and truly wrong. So, with the candy bar, yes the child is going to be traumatized, but we can’t be teaching our children that stealing is ok either (cause the mother doesn’t have the money to pay for that candy bar), so sometimes trauma is unavoidable. And when I say trauma, I’m not talking from the adults perspective, I’m talking from the child’s perspective. But, if something is truly wrong, then something is truly wrong. Basically what I’m saying is, you’re not going to say to your child “Now sweetie, I know you’re upset and I’m sorry, but you can’t have that candy bar.” No, instead I would say “Look, Daddy doesn’t have money for a candy bar right now. We went grocery shopping so we could have more food in the house. You don’t need a candy bar, cause Daddy doesn’t have the money for it, and we’re not going to steal from this company either.” Yeah, it sucks sometimes to look like the bad guy, but how else is the child supposed to learn right from wrong?
Well, you may misunderstand me. Look…again, if your child is doing something, that is truly wrong, and I’ll give you another example. Let’s say your child is 5 years old, and you and your wife had another baby recently. And let’s say that baby grabs a toy that the 5 year old wanted to play with, and let’s say the 5 year old gets really upset and starts hitting the newborn. A good parent will grab that 5 year old, look at him in the eyes, and in a very stern tone say “What are you doing? This is not how we should act! You are physically hurting your little brother, and you need to stop! You’re going in timeout mister to think about what you just did!” And it doesn’t matter how mad your child gets, what he was doing was wrong and he needs to innerstand that you don’t do that to your baby brother.
I’m not saying we have to spoil our children. What I’m trying to get at here is this….if your child is not doing something that is truly wrong, then why rub salt on an open wound? Lemme give you another example, let’s say that a child is trying to sleep, and let’s say the child hears a noise and immediately starts crying really loud and goes into your bedroom and they’re crying and they say “Daddy, daddy! There’s a monster in my bed!” And Dad had a very hard day at work that same day and Dad says “There’s no such thing as monsters son. Now go back to sleep and leave Daddy alone!” And you stay in the bed. This is one of those situations where, the child isn’t doing anything wrong. And really, if Dad wanted to get some sleep, Dad could just wake up Mommy and say “Can you take care of our son? I have to be at work tomorrow really early, and you don’t have to go to work tomorrow.” And then Mommy could get up and basically show the child that there’s nothing to be afraid of. But even if you didn’t want to wake up Mommy, it doesn’t take a long time to get up from the bed, go into his room, and tell him to go into the bed and wait a little bit for that same noise to happen where you say “Sweetie, it’s just a noise the house makes. That’s not a monster sweetheart, it’s just the house.” And, if the child continues to wake you up about it, then you can just say “Well…if you’re scared about being in your room, then you can sleep by Dad.” And then later on, you can show that there’s nothing to be afraid of and that it’s just a noise the house makes. You’re not spoiling the child, all you’re doing is addressing a concern your child has. Again, if a child isn’t doing something wrong, then why would you say or do something that’ll just make the child upset? It’s just unnecessary is all I’m saying. I think you’re misinterpreting what I’m saying here….
Yes it would. The goal for parents is to teach their child right from wrong, but at the same time to avoid as much trauma as possible. But the other thing too is, parents are not superheroes. Yes, I’m sure there were some things that happened when I was little that my parents may have regretted. You’re not Superman, you’re only hueman too. As long as you try your best that’s all anyone can really expect of you.
And if you subscribe to my beliefs (which you don’t), that’s exactly what’s going on. It’s God mirroring God. Because again we are all Gods and Goddesses, so all you’re doing is mirroring God more or less. But because you don’t subscribe to everyone being a God or Goddess, this concept isn’t gonna make sense to you. And that’s ok, I don’t expect you to innerstand everything I’m saying. In fact, I can’t expect the average person to innerstand what I’m saying because most people are programmed to believe in something they were told to believe in. You have to remember, I’m going against what I was programmed to do. There’s not a lot of people who would do that, and part of it is a security factor. Cause I get it, being around people who are of like mind creates security and fellowship. To go against your programming would be devastating, but there’s a lot more benefits to that than you’d realize. This world programs you to think a certain way, but if you really sit down and question everything you’ve been taught, you find out what it is you truly believe in. And when I did that, my beliefs were actually very much polar opposite of what I was taught. There’s only a few things that I still believe in, but most of the things I was taught were a bunch of half-truths mixed with some lies. There were only a few things that were fully true, but most of the stuff I fell for was only half-true. I want the truth, not some half-truth. I want the WHOLE truth so help me God.
Saints are people. I don’t worry about Saints, the only person I need to worry about is myself, and God helps me along the way. I can try to help people, but most people don’t want my help. And because I respect someone’s Free Will, I just move along. There’s no point in trying to help someone who doesn’t want it to begin with. And, I’m not responsible for someone else’s actions. I’m only responsible for my own.
Agreed, it is ok to not be ok.
Well, again you don’t subscribe to what I believe in, so you’re gonna have a preconception about what it is I talk about. If God’s divinity is inside of us, then we don’t really have to rely on God for anything….his divinity is already there. You speak of God as if He’s a separate entity from everything else. What I believe is that God is everything. If I am to go along with the Law of One, which is a Universal Law, then that means that just like I’m one with everything, so is God. And because God puts some of his divinity in his Creation, God is everything! Yes, in these hueman meat suits we see everything as separate from us, but the truth of the matter is, we are just a small part of everything else. We are connected to everything. Nothing is separate from us, not the grass, not the trees, not the birds, not other huemans, shoot, not even the Universe is separate from us. We are One with everything, we just perceive our reality to be separate from us, but it’s really not.
You just said quote “What I think heals is recognizing the reality of the situation.” What was the one thing I talked about it when it comes to healing childhood wounds? Recognizing and healing that past trauma. In this one sentence, you just mirrored what it is I was talking about, and I didn’t have to test this to figure this out. You basically just did what this reality does which is mirror everything that is going on within us. I don’t believe that anyone is a victim of anything….because if we’re being truly truthful here, we have Free Will at every step of our lives, including childhood. If we wanted to, when we were children, we could’ve just ignored our parents when they would try to trigger us, but because our brains are still developing, and because we place our parents as people who feed us, and clothe us, and make us a decent meal, because we love fiercely and because we want Mom and Dad to love us, we do every possible thing we can to make them proud, so much so that sometimes we suppress our feelings just to “keep the peace.” The hardest thing for adults to do, is to feel. Why do you think children in particular are generally happy? It’s because, the way they learn is through feeling. And because every hueman desires to be happy, children tend to do things that make them happy. Yes, they can be fussy, and at times can be even a little mean, but children for the most part are happy. So, in a way, the challenge for most adults is to re-learn how to feel, because unfortunately most adults have been taught (not just through parents, but through other people like teachers, Priests, etc…) how to not feel. Our system is based on punishment and reward. You don’t want to do homework, well then you’re going to get an F. You don’t want to clean up your room, then you’re grounded. So basically, we are taught from a very young age to do things that we really do not want to do. And that’s because, we are taught how to ignore what you feel. You don’t feel like cleaning? Well, if you don’t clean up something, then you’re going to attract insects and other nasty things. But just because you don’t feel like cleaning right now, doesn’t mean that insects and other nasty things will make their way inside your house. It just means that right now, you don’t feel like cleaning. And there’s nothing wrong that, there really isn’t. But we’re constantly being told, or feel like we’re being forced, to do things we really don’t want to do. And that can really mess someone up. That’s why the challenge for us, as we get older, is to learn how to feel again, because if we’re not happy, it’s because we’re not living our purpose, and every single person who incarnates on this plane of existence has a purpose.
And what do you think we’re doing? We’re Gods and Goddesses healing other Gods and Goddesses. We are the Christ! So yes, we’re constantly healing the Christ within us and others.
And for you, if that’s what works for you, then I’m all for it! But, it has been my observance that huemans generally do not do well when it comes to suffering. Yes, some people can take more suffering than others, but I find huemans looking up to someone who suffers greatly very odd. Why would you consider someone a good person who suffers? Why are we praising those who suffer? God doesn’t want you to suffer, nor does Jesus, but yet our society accepts you when you suffer? That doesn’t sound like something God wants, and it doesn’t sound like something that Jesus wants either. Adopting this mindset that Jesus gives our suffering meaning is kind of messed up to me. Suffering should not be looked upon as a good thing, we should try to alleviate it, but because most people on this planet are Catholic and because most people have the mindset that you do, suffering isn’t going anywhere. It’s gonna stay here till people adopt a different mindset. And trying to change the hearts and minds of others is very hard, especially if the person doesn’t want to change. The reason why we have suffering is because most people on this planet believe in suffering. If everyone didn’t believe in suffering, than suffering would cease to exist. However….suffering does serve a good purpose, but I dunno if I would look at suffering as a good thing…or that suffering can give someone meaning with a life in Jesus Christ. Suffering is generally bad, and unless you know how to give meaning to suffering, your life is going to suck lol.
I don’t have to accept this reality as real. This reality is a clown show, what are you talking about? We have politicians in Capital Hill who literally get paid to just argue without anything ever actually getting done. We have to pay taxes on everything, and if we make above a certain tax bracket, we also get taxed at tax time. There is no such thing as true balance in this system we live in, cause if we had true balance, everyone would have an equal amount of days off and days that they work. This work/play balance that everyone talks about doesn’t actually exist, cause most people work their entire lives and then die lol. And now when people talk about going to college to make a better life for themselves, that seems like such a fairytale nowadays. If you go to college, unless you have scholarships or grants, you more than likely have to take out a loan to go to college, so basically you enter into college poor. You bust your a** by studying and literally not having a social life (that is if you really value the knowledge you’re given and really put education above everything else), and then by the time you get out of college you’re not guaranteed a job straight out of college. I know of plenty of people who have degrees in a variety of fields, and they’re stuck working at Wal-Mart or Target. We’re divided on so many dang things it’s not even funny. And you mean that I have to accept this as my reality? Hell no! The only reason I’m still in the system is because I don’t have enough money saved yet to get myself out of the system. And yes, there’s a way to get yourself out of the system, but it costs money and time, which I have the time just not the money, at least not yet.
We live in a Matrix. Everything is an illusion, and it was designed this way to serve us. So because everything is an illusion, pick the illusions that will work for you and your Spiritual Walk. Remember, this Dimension is literally designed for learning. Earth is one big school. Why choose to believe in just a few things? Expand your mind! Learn as much as you can, even about things that you don’t really care for, learn about them anyways. If you learn how to do something the wrong way, instead of kicking yourself for learning something the wrong way, instead look at it as “Ok, so I learned how to do something the wrong way. So when I try to do this again, maybe learn how to do that same thing a different way.” Because even when you learn how to do something the wrong way, you’re still learning. Cause now, you’ll learn how to do that particular thing in a different way.
The Earth is literally your playground, and even though I believe that the Demiurge made this planet, the fact that we are made by the One True God means we are capable of so much. There are so many aliens and other entities that want so badly to incarnate inside of a hueman husk, because huemans are extremely powerful creatures. The fact that every hueman on this planet has Spiritual gifts is one of the luxuries of being hueman on this planet. The only thing that is standing between you and being able to perform great feats is YOU! So stop limiting yourself! Believe in the impossible, and you will be able to do the impossible, because God has his divinity within you, so USE IT!
If I help even just 1 person, then it’s totally worth it, cause most people don’t want my help.
I appreciate your responses. We just have differing worldviews and perceptions of reality. I don’t like the term “your truth” and “my truth,” because there is just truth (in spite of what one believes).
I have to share that as I read your analogies, my mind thinks of that scene in Home Alone where Kevin replies in his mind all the ways his Family responds to his behavior and choices. Like when his Uncle says, after Kevin spills Pepsi all over the counter (and plane ticket), “Look at what you’ve done, you little jerk!” And he also replays in his mind some of the things that his Cousins had said to him at various moments. I love John Hughes’ movies!
Everyone sees the truth through a slightly different lense. For example, if a woman takes a picture of a green dress and posts it on their Facebook with a question that says “What color is this dress?” Someone then posts “Green.” Another person posts “Forest Green.” Is the person who posted Forest Green wrong? No, Forest Green might be a slightly darker shade than Green, but it’s still green.
The one thing I will say is, there is one truth that everyone can agree upon and that is to not break the law. That is one truth that is true for every hueman across the board. Everything else is up for interpretation.
Technically, she is wrong. What we see are the colors that are being reflected off of an object. So the dress is all the colors being absorbed, not the colors being reflected. But, I get your point. My Wife and I see colors slightly differently. She says her vehicular structure is silver and I say it is more silver-blue. I see our couch as more green and she sees it as grey. The object itself is reflecting the same amount of colors, in spite of how we perceive it though. That does not change, based on who is looking at the object.
Unless that law is an unjust law, in which, I would not comply. A good book(let) is titled, “The Law” by Frédéric Bastiat.
Thanks : ) You should see the dreams I have while sleeping. They can get pretty creative (or rather weird). Dreams would be another good topic for another thread.
Well…and Maritime Law is a scam for the average person. Common Law is for people, but Maritime Law is for companies. Most Courts operate under Maritime Law, you have to specifically request for a Common Law court if it is a matter of you and another person. I mean, you can have a Court Case between people in a Maritime Law Court, but there’s all sorts of hoops you have to go through, it’s nuts! Like I said, the people who run the show here on Earth have infiltrated everything, including our laws. This place is a cesspool that’s aesthetically pleasing. It’s a d*mn shitshow with clowns everywhere….
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