I’m 18, and I have had a girlfriend for a little more than a year now. We are both Catholics, and we did plan to marry someday, but recently we had some discussions, and now I believe we aren’t compatible for marriage, at least with our personal values right now. But we still love each other, and I don’t want to break up and lose a great relationship just because in the future it might not work. Is it wrong to date her, knowing we aren’t compatible in the long term?
Simple answer, yes. She sounds like a great gal and you are wasting her time. Pray that she finds a good husband and Pray for him as well.
I know this isn’t the answer you wanted to hear, but it is the answer you might need to hear.
God bless.
Well. I woudn’t say i’m wasting her time, because I talked to her, and she knows that I’m not sure about the future, but I understand the bad part of it. But is it really necessary to end right now? Like, idk. It is so difficult!
but thanks for answering
Then she is wasting her time with you (either way).
I Pray that God either brings about true conversion in your life, making you a better man or that she realizes that God has someone better for her (if you ain’t it).
Breaking up is hard to do and getting broken up with is ever harder. But, the reality is, you are not Married and the point of dating is to find a good spouse. I have been in a relationship with someone I did not know was right for me. She ended up breaking up with me, because I a too scared to do it myself and to be alone. Turned out that her breaking up with me (thought it sucked at the time) was the best thing, because I met my Wife soon after and when I say that my Wife is an amazing person, I truly mean this.
In fact, my Wife and I discovered through conversation that we had been at certain events at the same time and could have had the opportunity to meet prior to me taking a detour (and that is what I think you and your girlfriend’s relationship is, a detour). If you are meant to remain together, then you need to get back on God’s path. And if she is in a passenger (willingly) in the wrong car (or relationship), then I Pray that you either let her go or that she realizes that she is not going the right direction.
Make sense?
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I understand. In fact, we kinda broke up. Like. we are still frients (I think), but idk if we are gonna get back together. Probably not. Unless I truly change some of my beliefs, after all, i’m not going to change her. Any way. Thanks for help. It is in fact hard to end a relationship, but I kinda fell relieved also. It was probably the right thing to do. Thanks again. 