Welcome! I know how your children feel. I too left the Church. I aged out of Youth Group and did not feel like I fit in with the older generation. I too felt like there was not a place for me.
The Church has always been “bureaucratic.” During Lent, I started reading the Early Church Councils. They were bureaucratic, but for a reason. They had/have the responsibility of protecting the deposit of Faith, passed on to them from the Apostles and their successors.
If the early Church acted like the non-Denominational Church I fell into during that chapter of my life, the Catholic Church would be so watered down today that it would be unrecognizable to what the early Christians believed and taught.
There is still hope for your children. God led me back to the mature Faith of my youth and He can do the same for them. Keep Praying for your Children and share with them the relationship that you have with Jesus. Don’t be preachy, just love.
Right now, I Pray for my Mom, who has walked away from the Eucharist. When she Married my Step-Dad, she became Presbyterian. They now attend a non-Denominational Church (very similar to the one I used to attend). My Mom is a saint though and loves others in an inspiring way. But, it makes me sad that she does not recognize the intimacy with our Lord, that He offers her in the Blessed Sacrament. Maybe one day, she will see Jesus in the breaking of the Bread (Luke 24:30-31a).
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