Less is More, Honesty is ALWAYS the best policy, and clarifying my position on certain things

You know, today I really reflected and….I’m proud of myself. I really am….because I really am an individual. I’ve lost a lot of things in this temporary place of existence, but I’ve gained so much Spiritually.

And, it’s great…cause, I’m not easily manipulated anymore, by anyone. Cause people don’t realize that people who have lost a lot in this life, are some of the most powerful people you’ll ever meet. I don’t have a girlfriend, I don’t have a child, I don’t have a wife, I don’t have a religion, I don’t really have a family anymore (except my Mother) and you know what? I’m happy. I have nothing tying me down.

We live in a system that appeals to ego, and not in the healthy way. Acceptance becomes synonymous with security. I just find it funny, society is so focused on the dollar bill now more than ever, but when it comes to a person, we may as well be no better than an object on a shelf. Basically, people have forgotten how to treat other people.

I’m glad I am who I am. I was told by my Mother, who never bullsh*t’s anyone, she said “Why do you mostly stay at home?” And I said “Because Mom, in all honesty, people don’t value honesty anymore.” And my Mom said “What does being honest have to do with going out and socializing?” And I just said “Mom…people do not like me. People literally have a hard time accepting me for who I am. I don’t know why, and in all honesty, I don’t care anymore. Because, when I meet a person for the first time, I don’t put on a performance. You either accept me, or you move on. And I’ve found that most people just move on.” And my Mom said “Well yeah, but doesn’t that bother you?” And I said “No…it doesn’t bother me. See, the problem Mother is that, I’m a mirror for people, and unfortunately I mirror most of the bad traits that people have. I come off really strong and it scares people. But in this life, I don’t believe in putting on a performance for anyone. Most people, when they meet someone for the first time, they act a little fake. And, I’m sorry, but my time here on this planet is precious. I don’t like it when my time is being wasted, and because I don’t believe in my time being wasted, I don’t believe in wasting other people’s time. Look, this is who I am, and if you can’t take the heat (and most people can’t) then bye Felicia. Because Mom, like it or not, when you put on a performance to become someone’s friend, chances are 99 times out of 100, there’s always going to be a part of your friendship that’s fake. Yes, I don’t perform, and yes people want nothing to do with me, but at the end of the day, my relationships with the few who can take the heat are as real as can get. You know, it’s funny because my friends will complain about their friends getting under their skin, or how their friends can be so annoying. And the few friends that I’ve got, I usually listen to them, and it’s sad that they can’t get along with the friends that they’ve got. But, currently I have 2 really good friends, and I can honestly say, I never have any problems with any of them. I don’t have to worry about being backstabbed, nothing they do or say annoys me, they’re genuine, and I know if I ever needed their help, they’d be there for me, and I them.” And my Mom just said “Well good…I’m glad that works for you.”

There are some people on here who, after talking to me and getting to know me, cannot take the heat. And, I get it, I come across as someone who is intense and who is very confident in what it is I believe and what it is I say. Just like I truly believe that you’ve had supernatural experiences that has led you back to the Church, I have had very interesting experiences that proves that what I believe isn’t something I just made up. I came to this forum, because in truth, this is the one religion that is as close to the truth as it gets. It’s not 100% true, but it’s close. I’m well aware that this is a “Catholic forum” and that this is what you all believe, and that is perfectly ok, but if you don’t want someone like me here, that’s fine, but if that’s the case then don’t open this forum up to just anyone. Because that implies to me that you’re willing to hear a different perspective, even if it’s not one that you believe.

And, one last thing. If someone makes a blanket statement about non-believers (or people who just do not believe in Catholicism fully), and it’s just not true, do not expect me to allow whatever statement you type on here to be left alone. And, I realize that there are certain things that are taught in the Catholic religion that really is just not true, and that’s not your all’s fault, and I get that…because you have to remember, I was once in your shoes, so I know that there are certain judgements that Catholics make that are honestly true at all. However, I’m not just going sit on the sidelines and not do anything about it. Sorry, but if you say something that just isn’t true, I will let you know about it. There’s one person in my family that believes in the same thing I do, and she is my Aunt. And I cannot tell you how many times, someone in the Catholic Faith has accused my Aunt of making pacts with demons, or being somehow aligned to Satan. She is able to heal people with her hands, I’ve watched her do it, she does not invoke demons, she does not call on Satan, all she does is target the area in the body that hurts and she makes certain motions with her hands. She has healed so many people, I can’t even count, and people keep coming back to her because she truly is able to make a person feel better.

Charlie Kirk died because of what he believed in. ICE, who literally is here to do a job, there are ICE officers being killed (or have had threats on their very lives) for doing their job. There is rhetoric that is floating around that is costing people their lives. In my day to day life, I never talk badly about Catholics, cause again, I do recognize that there is a place for religion on this Earth. Yes, on here I will challenge the faith, but from just normal interactions with other people near me, I never bring up the faith. But, because of the way things are nowadays, I’m not letting certain things go anymore. I’m really not that bad of a person…if you actually get to know me, I’m actually a pretty decent person, but I’m not going to sit back and let just anything slide. The world is a dangerous place right now, for both believers and non-believers alike. So, let’s be a little mindful of what it is we say.

Thank you for your time.

I’m not sure what you mean by “cannot take the heat”. Maybe those people simply disagree with some of your beliefs, and it’s yourself that cannot take the heat of that disagreement

I never was against people disagreeing with me. The problem is, is that you didn’t want to continue to have a conversation with me. Which is fine….and I told you several times I was fine with that. In fact, I’ve decided to keep my distance from you because you always took things that I said too much to heart. If you’re willing to have a conversation that’s fine…but I’m not going to discredit what it is I’ve seen, experienced, researched, and thought about, just like I wouldn’t expect you to discredit what you’ve seen, experienced, researched, and thought about. If you’re going to have a discussion with me, fine, but, part of the deal too is learning that not everything that is typed online is typed in anger. Some of that is based on perception, which isn’t always true.

As far as me not being able to take the heat of the disagreement? Hmmm…

When you said that, I was under the impression that you didn’t want to talk anymore, which is why I politely backed off. If you wish to continue to talk to me, that’s fine, but we need to kind of discuss a few things before we talk, because assuming things that aren’t true isn’t fair to me nor is it fair to you. I never wanted to stop talking to you, that was never my desire. But, it sounded like you were taking things too personally so I decided to politely stop talking to you. So, I guess what I need to ask you is, do you want to talk?

Look….I might be aggressive in my approach but I’m not unreasonable. If for whatever reason you wish to stop talking, that’s fine. I know I’m aggressive, and I’m well aware that that turns a lot of people off, but I don’t believe in flattery. I’m honest with how it is I feel at all times. If you have a problem with that, that’s fine, but I’m not going to put on a performance. Too many people do that, and then people wonder why they have problems when they have relationships with other people. This is who I am, and I’m not afraid to admit that I’m not for everyone, in fact I’m not for most people. And I’m ok with that…I want honesty….not sugarcoated crap.

I never took anything personally. I just gave my opinion and asked you to stop forcing your beliefs onto me, i had already said that i disagreed.

I read what you had to say, I said what I had to say and I read again what you had to say. After all that I had nothing more to say, I would of just been repeating myself.

Maybe you should look at yourself instead of blaming others for not having any friends. For example you don’t eat meat and you choose to criticise and shame people who eat meat. No one wants to hang out with someone who tries to guilt trip them about that.

People will disagree with you about things in life. You really need to learn to accept that if you want to get along with people better. Especially considering your in the minority with much of your beliefs.

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You say you can’t make friends and you admit that your aggressive. I’m just trying to help by giving you advice. Take it or leave it. Being angry and aggressive won’t get you far

Fear, anger, aggression. The path to the darkside are they.

Ok, and what did I say?

I politely stepped back. Look, I know I was aggressive with you and I know I’m a flawed hueman being. I know I do wrong things every single day, and I work on trying to better myself every single day. I know I’m not perfect, I know I’m not the smartest person in the room, I know that I know nothing, I know all of that. I’m constantly working on becoming a better person, all the time. You should see the notes I take whenever I do self-therapy, cause I do it all the time. I have a lot of things I’m trying to heal from, and it’s going to take a while to do that. I’m not afraid to hold myself accountable for my actions. I’ve been wrong before, in fact I’m wrong every single day. It should come as no surprise. I’m not disagreeing with what it is you’re telling me right now, because it is true.

I never said I didn’t have any friends. Quote:

If you want to eat meat, that’s fine! Look, every decision you make is on you. I wish people wouldn’t eat meat, but it’s not up to me as to how someone lives. You have Free Will, and that was a gift given to you from God so if you want to eat meat, then by all means eat it. God’s not going to get mad at you for eating meat, in fact, I know He wouldn’t.

I used to have a friend who’s a Christian. And, almost every time I hung out with her, she would constantly tell me that if I didn’t choose a different path in life that there’s only one place people go to if I chose to do the wrong thing. You see, I don’t believe in a hell, but my friend did. And, it’s ok if that’s what she wants to tell me, I know she means well. I know she didn’t actually wish, nor did she truly desire for me to go to Hell. In fact, no one I’ve ever met ever mean’t any harm in saying that I need to choose God or go to Hell and that’s because most people truly want everyone to go to Heaven. There’s not a Christian I know who wants anyone to go to Hell, and people who think that way, they’re the one’s with the problem not Christians.

And I’m ok with being part of the minority. If Jesus was ok with being part of the minority with His beliefs, then I am more than ok with being the minority when it comes to mine. I’m willing to abandon being part of the majority on my search for the truth. Again, there are things that I’ve experienced, seen with my own eyes, and researched for me to not arrive at the conclusions I have.

And I appreciate that.

Yes, which is why I do self-therapy to work on myself, because I do realize that I have stuff I need to work on. But one thing I’m not going to do is to try to speed up healing. I find that when I try to speed up my own healing, that the more I don’t want to heal to begin with. It’s going to take some time, but I’ll be ok.