Are Arranged Marriages Biblical?

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I was thinking the other about what the Bible has to say about arranged Marriages and then I remembered that Eve was arranged by God for Adam (God must have knew Adam’s type ; )

The other that came to mind was Mary and Joseph. I’m sure there are more than just these two, but I came to the conclusion that arranged Marriages are indeed Biblical, but not necessarily the norm.

I know two people in my life who’ve been in arranged Marriages. The first was a couple from the Church I grew up in. They were from India. She was my 6th Grade Science Teacher and he was the Town’s Doctor (and very knowledgeable of the Bible). They were very happily Married and it was very sad when he became ill and passed from Pneumonia I believe. She made a Prayer book in his honor. These were Prayers that they would often Pray together as a couple.

I know of another individual who had been arranged to a very abusive Muslim man and it was not good. He would beat her for adding to much seasoning to his meal and beat her if she put too little salt on his food. She tried fighting back once, but that was a huge mistake. He only beat her worse. Long-story-short (and she does have an amazing conversion story of Jesus, whom she was unaware of at the time), she eventually took their dowry and escaped the abuse! Her story does have a very good ending, which I believe I have shared before.

I have heard that only 4% of arranged Marriages actually end in Divorce, but I don’t know how old these states are and what contributes to such a “success” rate.

I take it back, I know two others who have been arranged. I used to work at a Hotel owned by a family from India and my Boss and his cousin were both arranged and they are still Married. I called the cousin “Indian James Bond.” He was always very dapper and his Wife was stunningly beautiful, but my Boss said that women in India have Botox Parties like we had Tupperware® Parties in the 80’s : )

Can you think of any other examples in the Bible (good or bad) of arranged Marriages?

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No, I can’t think of any other examples right off the bat, but if there’s one thing I’ve realized about huemans is, the whole opposites attract theory might work for magnets, but that’s not how it is with people. There are some people who can make it work, and you have to be an evolved person in order to make something like that work, but most people tend to have more fulfilling marriages when their significant other is like them in interests.

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Mary and Joseph: funny you mentioned arranged marriages after someone mentioned in another thread that, according to one account, Joseph was in his nineties when he mrarried Mary. I was thinking that if their marriage was arranged by their parents, then Mary’s parents made a strange choice if they picked a groom in his nineties, and it reminded me of the “Matchmaker” song in Fiddler on the Roof (set in a Jewish community in Russia in the 1800s). The community matchmaker picks couples, but the grooms are not always good catches.

[Three sisters:]
Matchmaker, Matchmaker,
Make me a match,
Find me a find,
catch me a catch …

[Matchmaker:]
Have I made a match for you!
He’s handsome, he’s young!
Alright, he’s 62.

[Steve says: or 92]

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And if Joseph’s parents were involved in arranging the marriage, they might have been only 115.

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It has more to do

It had more to do with their lineage. St. Joseph was form the prophetic line of the Tribe of Judah and Mary was from the line of King David, of which the Messiah was to come.

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So if it had more to do with lineage, it had less to do with the parents’ choice? But still it was partly to do with the parents’ choice? And if Joseph had any sons, would they have had the exact same lineage he did? So if they existed, could they have been considered as husbands for Mary? And who chose Joseph and Mary as marriage partners based on their lineage? If it was God, that still had to be communicated to both of them before they got engaged.

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We watched the second episode of the third season of “The Chosen” last night and something came up relating to this topic. St. Thomas wanted to Marry a woman, but Thomas’ father had died and because their Parents had not arranged for them to be Married (as tradition apparently was implied), they were afraid that it would not be granted. In the show, Thomas tells Jesus of his wishes to Marry Ramah (who was introduced as a fictional character). Thomas was hoping to go ask her father for her hand in Marriage. Jesus is about to send the Apostles out two-by-two and sends Thomas to the region where Ramah’s parents live, so that he can make a request to Marry, which was uncommon in their culture.

God did.

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I have watched all of The Chosen and found it generally well done and entertaining. It has consultants guiding the content. Coincidentally a good Catholic man recently told me that he doesn’t like The Chosen because some people think it’s all historical fact, and I said I think that some people do the same with the Gospel of James.

So if God chose Joseph and Mary to be married, how did He communicate this to them? Through the decisions of their parents? Through angels? To get engaged, they must have reached a decision or had a decision made for them and communicated to them. I believe that God brought me and my wife together, and I can relate the steps we took that led to that.

If Joseph and Mary’s becoming a couple “had more to do with their lineage,” how did they arrive at this knowledge and conclude that it was the major reason for them to marry? Divine revelation? A human matchmaker?

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Well, I have a vastly different take on this, take it or leave it (but I have a vastly different take on the different stories in The Bible, because I’ve read or innerstood some of the text that was taken out), but to my knowledge and innerstanding, the angel named Enki (the leader of the good faction of the Annunaki that they talk about in Enoch) took some of his sperm and artificially inseminated it into Mary. This is, of course, one account taken into consideration. Plus, we already know what happens when you mix angel dna with hueman dna, you basically get a giant, and Jesus wasn’t a giant. So, that’s the only reason why I don’t think this happened, unless the angel somehow modified the dna, which is possible. Enki was, after all, a master alchemist.

But personally, I think what happened was Mary had a true virgin birth. There’s actually a study where they took a bunch of women who desired to get pregnant, and every single day they were to think, talk, and pretend to have a baby inside of them. Now, I don’t remember how long this actually took, but basically the study concluded that it is possible for women to have virgin births, cause every single woman who was a part of this study became pregnant. So, I think Mary basically manifested Jesus in her belly. How Joseph fits into all of this, not sure. I just know that the man loved Mary. But, again, it is possible for women to have virgin births.

Those are my thoughts.

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Peace to all,

Undefiled logical intelligence dna never fails and in only one way manifesting from incorruptible Holy Spirit Family power for the created souls of all through the flesh.

Since Church Time Began, in 0 A. D. (Anno Dominin, Latin for the Year of The Lord(s), The OMNiLogical best “Arrainged Marriage” becomes “In The Christ” for all becoming again One God in being, OMNiLogically, from the Wedding in Cana, I believe.

Rational Logical Virgin Birth is from Heaven from souls preexisting conceived not requiring blood and water birth to earth and living through sanctified immortal and incorruptible flesh becoming One Body in The New Eve.

OMNiLogically, the four most powerful words in the Bible are, “The Word becomes Flesh.”

Great minds of earth always say?
“For centuries, a detail in John’s Gospel about Jesus’ crucifixion—that “blood and water” flowed from his side—was considered purely symbolic. Today, modern medicine confirms this is a plausible physiological event resulting from the trauma of crucifixion. This striking link between ancient eyewitness testimony and modern science serves as a powerful testament to the Bible’s accuracy.”

Stephen always says, logically, The finite minds of man can never understand the infinite disciplines from the Dominion becoming alive and living in us but OMNiLogic always explains the Mind of God in all becoming again One God in being.

The First Miracle is "Arrainged Marriage, OMNiLogically.
“Arranged Marriages” Jesus says, “Woman, why do you involve me?” Jesus replied. “My hour has not yet come.”

Biblically Arranged is “The Wedding of Cana” unites Mary in the Immaculate Conception through the New Eve together with the Eternal Priestly Authority becoming Virgin Born for Jesus becoming in the New Adam “In The Christ” for all through the spiritual and flesh arranged marriage from the Power of the Holy Spirit Family One God in being. Jesus and Mary become “In The Christ” and could not go public until the “Arranged Marriage” through The Wedding in Cana, I believe.

From “Arranged Marriage” can Born again and Saved as Catholic become Modern medicine OMNiLogical understanding. Modern medicine always goes like, Where is Stephen now? I will always say OMNiLogically from Where did all of the blood and water even come from? He was dead? No, no, no, no, The Holy Family is always alive becoming from the Power of The Holy Spirit Family One God in being through the “Word becomes Flesh,” Rebirth is the opening of “The Womb” the Gates of the New Heaven and Earth for all, from the cross from where the blood and water flows for all through “Rebirth” from “Salvation” for all becoming again in One Holy Spirit Family One God in being.

Peace always,
Stephen

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Somedays Stephen I wish I had just enough intelligence to make out what you say sometimes. You are so intelligent my friend. If you ever need my help, I’ll try my best to help you out. You’re a good person Stephen. You shine brighter than the sun! Keep feeding that spirit of yours God’s manna, cause you got the gift!

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Peace to all,

It’s easy, Jacob to explain the mind of God to all, I believe.

Jesus and Mary’s marriage is heavenly arranged, OMNiLogically.

All things appliy to from where they came becoming again One God in being, OMNILogically.

The Mind of God becomes to earth in the flesh, OMNiLogically.

Faithfully Saint Paul wrote Romans, "From Him through Him for him are all things, in him be the glory. Saint Paul was with Saint Peter when he brought the Holy Spirit to the faithless in Corinth. OMNiLogic brings the logic of the mind of God to the faithful in Catholicism.

Prior to Omnilogical God only through faith could one understand attaining eternal life. The logical formulas through the wondrous mysteries of the faith allow becoming again.

Logically, From Creation through Transformation for Incorruption and Glorification are all things, to transfiguration becoming again In One God in being a Family be the glory.

From Creation by the Father through Mary becoming Immortalization in the New Eve for Jesus in the New Adam becoming glorified Incorruption and Glorification to all Glory be Transfiguration in the Holy Spirit Family One God in being.

Three Powers combine all equal in the Powers of God together becoming again immortalized Incorruption for all Creation transfigured in One Holy Spirit Family One God in being.

OMNiLogic is “The Vatican Secret” that now even The Catholic Church knows OMNiLogically, I believe.

Logically from three Powers From the Father and Creation through the Mother for flesh nature transformation Immortalization for Jesus Glorification and Spirit Nature Incorruption “In The Christ” through both natures, from the incorruptible spirit through the immortally immaculate flesh life into The Holy Family Transfiguration Powers united becoming in One Holy Spirit Family Again from where The Holy Family came.

Three Powers Create, Transform and Glorify through two natures becoming again from One Power One God in being transfigured for all in One Holy Family One God in being.

The Fulfilled Faith of Abraham resurrects through Both from the spirit through the flesh natures becoming One Holy Spirit Family One God in being.

These are the OMNiLogical keys fuflilling The Mind of God through all Creation becoming again undefiled and unfailing for two natures becoming in One Family, OMNiLogically.

When a Catholic or even anyone hears OMNiLogical information one becomes to know The Holy Family, I believe.

Peace always,
Stephen

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The Bible does not explain how Mary and Joseph met or how their marriage was arranged. It only states they were “betrothed.”

And then the Angel appears to Joseph, who is described as “a righteous man,” in a dream. The Angel tells him, “Joseph, son of David, do not be afraid to take Mary your wife into your home” (Matthew 1:20).

I believe God brought my Wife and I together. There were a few times that we were at the same places at the same time, prior to our actually meeting. I went to school with a girl two-hours away from my Wife’s hometown. This girl, who was a friend of mine, had two Cousins who apparently went to my Wife’s Youth Group! When I went to College in this city where my Wife grew up, we went over to someone’s house with my friend’s Cousin’s Youth Group to watch the comedy “Tommy Boy.” The room was dark when we arrived and the movie had already started. My Wife and I were in the same room and didn’t even know it!

Another time, I was working at a Super Kmart and these weird group of kids came in dressed in Toga outfits. I still to this day, do not know what that was all about, but my Wife was apparently one of these. It was her Youth Group, again, just goofing around.

There were a couple other moments like this, where we were at the same places at the same time, where we could have met, but maybe I was too in my own world or it wasn’t God’s timing for us to meet.

Do I believe there is one person for everyone? No, I don’t believe this, but do I believe God know who may make a good Wife/Husband for someone? I do. God know each and every one of us better than we know ourselves. And if you are Praying for a future spouse and trust God to find someone for you with the qualities He knows can work, I believe God will give us opportunities to meet someone who is a fit.

Does this mean that we will always recognize this opportunity or not wrongly choose someone who is not who God had in mind for us? Trust me, I was deceived, and dated the wrong person, before I met my Wife. That was on me, not God’s mistake. He was probably shaking His head and was like, What are you doing? I’ve given you a few opportunities to meet this one, and you go for that one? Seriously? : )

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You go Stephen….you are a treasure to have here. One of God’s many gifts. I’m so proud of you!

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Saint Joseph is identified in the New Testament (Matthew and Luke) as a descendant of King David, bridging the Old Testament royal line with the New Testament narrative. As a “son of David,” Joseph’s legal lineage is crucial for establishing Jesus as the rightful messianic heir, fulfilling prophecy.

Key details regarding Joseph as “son of David”:

  • Royal Lineage & Messianic Hope: By calling Joseph “son of David,” the angel in Matthew 1:20 highlights his royal pedigree, signaling that God is fulfilling promises to raise up a descendant to rule.
  • Legal Fatherhood: While genealogies differ, Matthew traces this descent through Solomon and Luke through Nathan, with Joseph acting as the legal, adoptive father who grants Jesus the legal right to the Davidic throne
  • Role and Character: Described as a righteous, pious, and obedient carpenter, Joseph accepted his role in the Holy Family, protecting Mary and taking on the responsibility of naming and raising Jesus.
  • Biblical Significance: The title underscores that Joseph, despite his humble occupation as a tecton or craftsman/builder, is a direct link to Israel’s greatest king.

Peace to all,

Through the Arranged Marriage, Mary is always protected.

“He only told me that You are good and pure, that You wish to inform me of a vow, and that I must be good to you. Speak, Mary. Your Joseph wants You to be happy in all Your desires. I do not love You my with body. I love You with my soul, holy girl given to me by God! Please see in me a father and a brother, in addition to a husband. And open Your heart to me as to a father and rely on me as on a brother.”

“Since My childhood I have consecrated Myself to the Lord. I know this is not the custom in Israel. But I heard a voice requesting My virginity as a sacrifice of love for the coming of the Messiah. Israel has been waiting for Him for such a long time!.. It is not too much to forgo the joy of being a mother for that!”

Her hair no longer hangs over Her shoulders. It is arranged in a knot of plaits in a charming style, and precious burnished silver hairpins, all made with embroidered filigree at the top, hold it in position. Her mother’s veil is placed over the plaits and it falls in beautiful folds under the precious thin plate that encircles Her snow-white forehead. The veil falls down Her sides and since Mary is not as tall as Her mother, it falls lower than Her hips, whereas it reached Anne’s waist. She has nothing on Her hands, but is wearing bracelets on Her wrists. Her wrists are so thin that the heavy bracelets of Her mother cover the back of Her hands and would fall to the ground if She tossed Her hands.

How beautiful Mary is dressed as a bride, among Her joyful friends and teachers! There is also Elizabeth amongst them.

She is dressed in snow-white linen, so soft and refined that it looks like precious silk. She is wearing round Her slender waist a burin wrought belt in gold and silver, made of medallions held together by little chains - each medallion is an embroidery of gold threads on heavy silver burnished by age. Probably because the belt is too long for Her, still a gentle girl, the last three medallions hang down in the front and fall amongst the folds of the very wide dress that is so long as to form a sort of train. On Her feet She is wearing white leather sandals with silver buckles.

Around Her neck the dress is held by a chain of small gold roses and silver filigree, reproducing on a smaller scale the design of the belt. Running through large holes on the loosely cut neck, the chain gathers the cloth and forms a kind of small frill. Mary’s neck emerges from the white pleated cloth with the grace of a stem wrapped in a precious fabric and seems even more slender and whiter than ever, the stem of a lily ending in a lily-like face, which is even paler than usual for the excitement - and purer. The face of a most pure victim.

Her friends gaze upon Her and admire Her. They twitter gaily like sparrows asking questions and expressing their admiration.

« Are they Your mother’s? »
« They are antique, are they not? »
« How beautiful, Sarah, this belt is! »
« And what about this veil, Susan? How refined it is. Just look at those lilies woven in it! »
« Let me see Your bracelets, Mary. Were they Your mother’s? »
« Yes, she wore them. But they are of My father’s mofher.

Joseph gazes at Her as if he wanted to read Her heart, then he takes Her tiny hands which are still holding the branch in blossom and he says: “I will join my sacrifice to Yours and we shall love the Eternal Father so much with our chastity that He will send His Saviour to the world earlier, and will allow us to see His Light shining in the world. Come, Mary. Let us go before His House and Nazareth to prepare everything for You, in Your house, if You wish to go there, or elsewhere if You wish so.” The Literal Pen of Jesus, Maria Valtorta

Peace always,
Stephen