I watched this late last night after my Family went to bed. Pray for Nicholas and for Anthony 
Just kidding, I thought what Anthony had to say was pretty interesting. And, though Rob did not share his thoughts, but I would be interested in what he had to say as well.
We are in some interesting times and I do believe things will get worse, before they get better, but like Lent, this is a time of turning back to or focusing more towards God and living for Him, in Him, with Him.
Well, what a nice Anthony show. Wouldâve been nice to hear from the other 2, but thatâs ok. I can tell heâs an alpha male, and thatâs okâŚthere are people out there who are alphaâs and thereâs nothing wrong with that at all.
Something I do want to point out isâŚthereâs still this idea floating around, and itâs such an archaic idea, this idea is so old, that it needs to be tossed and thrown out the window, because itâs hurting people more than itâs helping people. Part of loving someone, or anyone really, is meeting them where theyâre at. When you love someone, your goal should never be to try and change them, or ignore them if they donât hold the same values you hold, or scold them even. Part of truly loving someone is seeing them for who they are right now. Not seeing who they could be, but seeing them for who they are right now. Many people donât do this, and itâs because unfortunately the truth is, is that people have a very shallow definition of love. Even those who truly do practice their faith, and try to live a good and Godly life, even some of those people still have a very shallow viewpoint of love.
The problem is, people really do not know how to properly handle negativity. There are so many people out there, who are so negative adverse, that itâs spooky almost. Look, I innerstand why most people will flock to the positive and the good and avoid the bad and the negative, because like it or not, huemans want convenience. And, to an extent, thereâs nothing wrong with desiring convenience, but there is such a thing as taking positivity to a toxic degree. I see so many people, at least around here, I canât really speak for anyone else, but I see so many people who will flock to the positive, and they live this life where itâs almost like theyâre putting on some false show 24/7. And, again, you canât really blame those people, because this is how our society has programmed all of us to be. Weâve literally been programmed to chase positivity like a bunch of addicts. Why do people like to get high? Well, because it gives them this sense of euphoria, your brain goes overboard and overproduces on dopamine. So yeah, youâre gonna feel like youâre on cloud 9. Same thing goes with alcohol. It gives you that buzz where youâre not thinking about your problems, youâre just having a swell old time. WellâŚno offense, the same thing could be said about chasing positivity. People chase positivity because it makes them feel good, and people are addicted to feeling good. Because we are shown, time and time again, from basically everyone around us, that negative is âbadâ and that we need to flee from anything that is negative in our lives. ButâŚwhat most people miss out on is the gift that negativity can bring.
So, Iâll be honest, I donât really have a lot of friends. And thereâs very good reason behind that, because the friends that I do have are tried and true. Iâm one of those people who doesnât believe in trying to push my problems under a rug. Iâm very vocal about my problems. And, itâs funny because the moment I start talking about something that really aggravates me, itâs like watching roaches scatter. Itâs like I went into a dark room, turned on a light, and all the roaches in the room start to scatter. And, I know why it isâŚ.people do not know how to be around someone whoâs being real with them. Thatâs really what it is. Sure you can call it or label it negativity, but on a deeper level, itâs because people donât want to be around negativity. Iâm sorry but people are wimps. Whenever someone doesnât like being around someone who freely expresses when theyâre feeling down or depressed, itâs because they view people who are down and depressed as people are âinherently unhappyâ and âthink dark thoughts sometimes.â But, the truth of the matter is, they donât value being authentic to everybody. Because, all they want to put out in the world is a false image of themselves, and what it boils down to is, itâs somewhat of a survival mechanism. You want to appeal to as many people as possible, so you put on this fascade and you come across as this happy person every single day with not a problem in the world. And so many people donât realize that you look an addict LOL! I know thatâs a strong word to use, but, it looks youâre taking meth all the time LOL! It justâŚto me it comes across so fake. Like câmon, youâve never had a bad in your life? Really? Give me a break.
What Iâm saying isâŚ.loving someone is not just about their good parts. Itâs loving them no matter what. No matter what they do, no matter what they say, youâll love them cause youâll see the beauty in them as a person. In fact, when you love someone like this, even their bad parts you can look past, because you realize that theyâre just a beautiful person. That yeah, they struggle just like you do. That yeah, they have little quirks about them like you do. And you know? Thatâs awesome! Thatâs awesome that theyâre not trying to fake their way into your groupâŚ.that they can be them and thatâs good enough. Loving someone is loving them as a whole person, which means loving them when they struggle as well.
I could tell Anthony was being truthful the entire time, cause you could see it and hear it, both in his body language and his voice, that heâs found something truly remarkable. And I believe him, I believe that heâs found peace in his own way. But, heâs doing exactly what most people do, which is to avoid the negative entirely and chase after the good. Itâs an addict mindset and itâs sad that most people think they have to do that. Itâs shallowâŚIâm sorry but it is, itâs very shallow.
I wanna conclude with this, and Iâm gonna start talking about my beautiful Mother again, but sheâs such a beautiful person, and I just really admire her, I really do. When I went to visit her on Valentineâs Day, we had a small little discussion about love. And my Mother looks at me and says âWhy doesnât your other brothers come around and visit me?â And, I always hate having to give her the answer, cause the answerâs very ugly, but unfortunately itâs true and I told her, honestly, I said âWell Mom, they donât come around because they donât know how to deal with negativity.â And my Mom said âWhat do you mean by that?â And I told her I said âWellâŚyouâre not going to like what Iâm about to say, and you have every right to not like what Iâm about to say, but itâs because anytime we come over and visit you, youâre always very negative about everything. And because my brotherâs donât know how to have a loving relationship with negativity, they donât visit you a lot, because theyâre biggest gripe is youâre too negative.â And, God love her, she looks at me and she says âIâm too negative? About what?â And I said âWellâŚabout a lot of things. But Mom, when you love someone, that doesnât matter. I want to suffer with you. I want to be here with you when youâre upset and depressed. Itâs so easy to love someone whose bright and cheerful all the time, and doesnât have a negative bone in their body. But youâre only falling in love with the good side of that person, youâre not falling in love with the entire person. In fact, I think I love you more than I love the average person, because you are as real as it comes. You are so raw and authentic in how you feel, that being with you is an absolute joy. Thereâs a ton of Martha Stewartâs out thereâŚ.but very rarely do you ever come across a genuine individual. Itâs the saddest truth about this world, is that people donât value rawness and truthfulness, they really donât. I love you for exactly who you are! I love that you are willing to share with me your troubles, that means a lot to me. Cause a lot of people are afraid to speak their mind, but not you. Thatâs what makes you so beautiful Mom. I wish more people would see the type of person you really are, cause I see beauty. I see a woman who has been through so much pain, like an ungodly amount of pain, and has risen above it all. Youâre my superhero Mom! Youâre a warrior! And I love coming over here and sharing in your pain, because I love you for exactly who you are, my Mother! My beautiful and awesome Mother!â She, of course, started crying, but itâs because, the poor woman suffers and never hears about the beautiful parts of her. Thereâs a lot of beauty that tend to radiate from people who hurt the most. My Mom is one of those people. And I will continue to suffer with her, because sheâs worth every bit of my time. I love that woman, and Iâd take a bullet for her so quickly, itâs not even funny. Sheâs just a cool woman, and she deserves to be seen and heard no matter what!
SoâŚ.just thought Iâd remind you all that negativity is only bad when you make it bad. Because if you can find the beauty in the ugly, you wonât approach negativity in fear. Youâll approach it with loveâŚ.