I never met my real father, but i just wondering is step father was the same in the bible?
I can relate a little bit. I was raised by my Step-Dad, but I would go visit my “Real” Dad every other weekend.
My “real” Dad had no rules. We could essentially do whatever we wanted.
However, at my Mom’s, my Step-Dad and my Mom did have rules and expectations for us, as members of the household. Even though my Parents were not overly-strict, I do recall uttering to my Step-Dad, “You are not my ‘real’ Dad!” And I do regret saying this, looking back on it.
Here is what we need to realize. No Parent is perfect. Not our “Real” Parents and not our Step-Parents. They will make mistakes.
God calls us to honor our Father & our Mother (The 4th Commandment — Exodus 20:12; Ephesians 6:2-3 & Colossians 3:20).
We also need to remember that St. Joseph was a Step-Father to Jesus. And we know he made mistakes too. I recall how they lost 12-year-old Jesus, who was in the Temple in Jerusalem (Luke 2:41-52).
Jesus was blessed with great Parents! But, sometimes this is not always the case for everyone. Sometimes we are being asked to honor those who are not honorable.
Our level of honor may differ based on our circumstances. If someone is abusive, then God is not asking us to allow ourselves to be abused.
I have a heart for young people who grew up without a father or with a dishonorable father. Some struggle with the idea of God being a loving Father, because they do not know what a loving Father looks like.
If you have a Step-Dad (who is not perfect, but is trying), he may not be your “Real” Dad, but he could be a blessing to your life. Pray for him. And Pray for your “real” Dad (wherever he may be).
I will close with this. When you become a Dad yourself, you can correct the things that your “Real” Dad and your Step-Dad were not. They can show you what not to do. And yet, you will still make mistakes (trust me), but ask God for the grace that you need to be a better Husband and a better Father.
St. Joseph. Pray for us!
I also just remembered that in Biblical times it was custom for the Husband’s Brother to Marry the Widowed Wife and raise his Brother’s children as his own (Deuteronomy 25:5; Genesis 38:8; Matthew 22:24). That would make your Uncle your Step-Dad, which would be much more awkward Today than your Mom Marrying someone who is not your “Real” Dad : )
Excellent reply, Cade.
Im too young to be a dad also im a girl.
Im happy with my stepdad. Im the not honorable one.
I was just wondering if he counted as a parent in the bible. Thanks for your answer!!
Oh sorry, I misunderstood your question. St. Joseph was Jesus’s step-Dad, but The Bible never uses the term. He was simply Jesus’ earthly Father.
The same for Jesus’ “brothers.” Some believe these were likely Jesus’ step-Brothers, but the Bible never uses this term.
Often in the Bible, they used words that could mean kin or relative, which could include a broad range of family relationships. So the word for “brother” could mean step-Siblings, Cousins, or even an Aunt or Uncle, Niece or Nephew.