We had a huge combined Youth Group with three other Parishes (Catholic Life Teen).
It was every other Sunday evening. We would celebrate Mass, followed by a meal, and then breakout sessions. It was so much fun and I loved meeting new people that I otherwise might not have ever met.
Kim, the lady who organized all of this, was an amazing woman. She cared so much about us kids. In addition to battling serious illness, but she suffered so gracefully and what witness she was.
Half of the core-team was made up of College Students at the Newman Center of a Christian College. This was a great way to help Catholic College Kids not to fall away from the Faith after leaving home for College. And it also helped them better learn their Faith, as teaching is the best way to learn.
Unfortunately for me, every other weekend was not enough and I began to seek out another Youth Group (non-Denominational) that met every Wednesday night, in addition to attending my Catholic Youth Group.
When I went off to College, I was not as lucky to have such a support. I attended Mass for about three weeks in a row and then missed a week. Then I missed two weeks. And before I knew it, I became indifferent, as far as going to Church goes. Some might refer to this as lapsed. The Bible calls it being lukewarm.
Youth Groups are very good (generally speaking), but if we are not growing in our relationship with Jesus, then it can become merely a wholesome social club with a little bit of Catechesis sprinkled in. Again, not bad, but what happens when this social support is ripped out from underneath you.
Being a Catholic in your early twenties is a strange time. You are “too old for Youth Group,” but still lacking in a mature faith.
I was lost, without discernment, and filled with a subtle arrogance and excitement for something new.
If you were to ask me, I would still say that I believed in God, in a feel-good kind of way. Contemporary Christian Music was just as good, if not better than what secular Radio was pushing out at the time.
I had tried to join the Christian Club on campus, but hanging out with this group would have been social suicide as a new College kid trying to appear cooler than I was. I probably would have made some great friends has I went back.
I met a cute “Born-Again” Christian girl in my English class who invited me to an awesome Lock-In at her small Church. The Christian Rock Band Sanctus Real was there (they had not yet been signed to a major recording label yet)! There was also a group of Junior High kids who did Christian Punk Music. This group of Christians were the very definition of cool.
Even the founder of Catholic Life Teen, which our Catholic Youth Group was based, was a very cool guy. He was on one of the early Seasons of M-TV’s The Real World. He and the Mormon girl were good examples of how to be in the World, but not of the World (John 15:18–19). But still, the Mormon girl was kicked out of Brigham Young University after appearing on the show. They apparently did not agree with me.
Now that my faith in Jesus has matured, I can now see that what I valued in my twenties was not my relationship with Christ, but to be accepted by people whom I had elevated to a higher social status.
I started reading a book a few years ago about young Catholic Christians who are attracted to the timeless beauty of the Traditional Latin Mass. I believe these young individuals have found a mature faith. I presume these individuals have found Jesus and would never let Him go for what is currently popular or fashionable.
“Christianity is always out of fashion because it is always sane; and all fashions are mild insanities. The Church always seems to be behind the times, when it is really beyond the times; it is waiting till the last fad shall have seen its last summer. It keeps the key of a permanent virtue.” — G.K. Chesterton, The Ball and the Cross