Last thursday i had a row with my sister who is 18, because my sister is clastrophobic and hates confined spaces i locked her in her room, i enjoyed her kicking and screaming to be let out, then my friend rang me, i got distracted, forgot about my sister and went out, 6 hours later my mum came home and found my sister locked up, she was crying, she had 2 or 3 panic attacks, missed her driving lesson and a date with her boyfriend, she even had to go to the toilet in a flower pot, my parents went mad and said the punishment must fit the crime, they said i would be spending a whole weekend locked in my room ( last weekend ) when i returned from school friday evening i was escorted to my room, i lost my tv, phone pc etc, after dinner i was locked in for the night, the next morning i was woken at 7am ( part of my punishment ) after a shower and breakfast i was locked in for the rest of the day, as i have exams this year i was set tons of schoolwork to do including, maths, english , french , georgraphy, biology , and science, i was also set three 4 page punishment essays to write one on UNACEPTABLE BEHAVOUR AND PUNISHMENTS, another on THE PURPOSE OF HARSH PUNISHMENT and another on WHY ITS IMPORTANT TO SHOW RESPECT TO OTHER FAMILY MEMBERS , i had to eat in my room and was only allowed out to use the bathroom, my parents said what i done to my sister was TOTALLY unacceptable that why a harsh punishment was required, what do you think ? did i deserve to be punished ADVICE PLEASE ? and please be honest ?
Sometimes punishment is supposed to make us realize how bad something we did was and make sure we never think of doing it again. If it is working in your case, then I would endorse your parents’ judgment. The way you describe it, you knew it would cause your sister emotional pain to lock her in her room, and that’s why you did it, to inflict pain, right? And you caused her to miss appointments. I think one thing more would be good: restitution. Maybe your parents can come up with something you can do to partly make up for the wrong you did.
Thank you for asking for opinions and being willing to listen. I’m a father of six, all grown now.
Gotta be careful, karma’s a real thing. I endorse your parent’s punishment too, that’s a terrible thing to do to someone who is clausterphobic. Before you do anything, always put yourself in someone else’s shoes, don’t go on impulse. Remember your punishment before you attempt to do that again.
i did say sorry to my sister, my parents said the punishment was to make me pay a debt to my sister, as she sufferd panic attacks while locked up, when i returned home from school last friday i was escorted to my room , i lost my tv, phone pc etc, i was then locked in my room lights out and bed 9pm , my parents made me get up on saturday and sunday at 7am after a shower and breakfast i was locked in my room for the rest of the day, i spent many hours stuck at my desk doing schoolwork and a few punishment essays, this were to make me think about the wrong i had done, i HATED being locked in , all my friends were out while i was shut away, my parents said my punishment MUST be hard so i learn my lesson do you agree ?
i did say sorry to my sister, my parents said the punishment was to make me pay a debt to my sister, as she sufferd panic attacks while locked up, when i returned home from school last friday i was escorted to my room , i lost my tv, phone pc etc, i was then locked in my room lights out and bed 9pm , my parents made me get up on saturday and sunday at 7am after a shower and breakfast i was locked in my room for the rest of the day, i spent many hours stuck at my desk doing schoolwork and a few punishment essays, this were to make me think about the wrong i had done, i HATED being locked in , all my friends were out while i was shut away, i missed my freedom so much and i HATED the feeling of knowing that i cant get out, my parents said that was the point of the punishment, to make it so hard and boring that i never want to be punished again do you agree with this ?
I agree that it was harsh, but it doesn’t sound excessive, so I would not second-guess your parents on this. A week in your room would be excessive, I think, but only as a matter of degree. However, you asked for an honest answer, and it’s my opinion; you are free to disagree.
I do agree with that. Listen Tanya, this 3rd Dimensional reality we live in is structured for learning, and because this reality is structured this way, take this as a learning opportunity. Ask yourself “What can I learn from this?”
Revenge is never the answer, and you may think that’s weird or odd, but one day you might learn this too. Don’t seek revenge on people who do you wrong. My family has mentally checked out on me, and other people think I’m crazy. And even though, after a while, it gets annoying having to deal with people who want nothing to do with you to begin with, wanting and desiring revenge for those people isn’t right. No good can come from seeking revenge. What you did to your sister was a form of revenge. No instead, try to teach yourself how to forgive. I’m not saying you have to forget about what was done to you, but I think it’s important to forgive others. And even if, right now, you can’t forgive them, eventually down the line you should try to. It’s not right to have a vengeful spirit. Forgive them, just don’t forget. That could be the best thing for you and your sister right now.
Good advice, I think.