Hello everyone. I hope you all had a wonderful Thanksgiving.
So, today I’m going to talk about romantic love. I’ve always been drawn to love ever since I was a small child. And I remember looking at statistics and it kind of disappointed me. Divorce rates continue to rise, and more and more people are not getting into relationships anymore. In fact, it wouldn’t surprise me if at some point marriage will be nothing but an idea, cause even marriages are declining.
So, I decided that something needs to be done. Why is it that we can’t seem to make relationships work? Huemans have been around for a long time, and we’ve been finding mates for a long time, but we’re obviously not doing something right. So, I went out and researched what most of us are doing wrong, along with asking Source, or God, a few questions about love. After many years of observing, and research, I think with the help of Source I have figured out how to find Unconditional Love.
Now you’re probably wondering how that’s even possible. Cause huemans, normally, are Conditionally Loving by nature. It is very hard, in fact it’s extremely rare, for a hueman to love another hueman completely unconditionally. But what if I was to tell you that, there is a way to for anyone, from any background, any religious leaning, any political leaning, etc… to find the coveted Unconditional Love? Cause it IS indeed possible, all you have to do is follow a simple formula that I will layout for you here in a bit.
3 Steps to Achieving Unconditional Love for the average person:
1.) So, this first step is going to be interesting, because what you’re going to start out doing, is you’re going to want to be Conditionally Loving. I know that sounds odd, but hear me out, because it’ll all make sense near the end. But what I want you to do, is I want you to write down a list of physical traits you want in a partner. You can be as detailed or as general as you want to be, but be honest. The reason why you’re gonna do this, is because, you’re going to befriend people who fit the profile of what it is you want in a partner. And, you’re just going to be friends first. You’re not going to lead the other person on, make sure the other person knows from the get go that you are strictly just looking for friends at this point. So, that’s the first thing you’re going to do, is to find a person that fits the physical description of what it is you want in a partner.
2.) After you find that person, and let them know that you’re just looking for some good company, you’re going to hang out with them and get to know them. This step is quite possibly the most important step, because this step will determine if you become something more than just friends. What you’re gonna do is hangout with this person, and you’re going to pay attention to what it is that interests them, and you’re gonna make mental notes of what it is that is important to them. After you’ve gotten to know them pretty good (like…a good span of time would be like 6 months), get out a sheet of paper and I want you to make 2 columns. One column, you’ll put “What we have in common” and the other column will be “What we don’t have in common.” And what you’re gonna do is you’re going to list the traits that you have in common and the traits that you don’t have in common. And the reason why you’re going through all of this, is to figure out how much different or alike that person is compared to you. And what you want to see is you want to see a significant amount of things that you do have in common, compared to what you don’t have in common. For example, a good match would be someone who has 10 things in common with you and only 3 things that are not common.
Why is it that we’re looking for more similarities than we are differences? Well…again, we live in a Conditionally Loving world. So because we live in a Conditionally Loving world, you have to approach a future partner with more similarities than differences. See, most people Unconditionally Love themselves (or I would hope you would love yourself, after all if you can’t love yourself you won’t be able to love other people). So because most people love themselves Unconditionally, if you look for way more similarities than you do differences, the easier it’s going to be to find someone you can Love Unconditionally, right? So after you figure all of that out, and you have way more similarities than you do differences, then you can ask them if they would want to date you. If you find more differences than similarities, or if you find something like 5 similarities but 4 differences, just don’t tell them anything. If anything, you made a new friend, and everyone can always use friends!
3.) After you get passed the friend stage, and now you’re on the dating stage, now is when things are going to be interesting. Because in order for this to work, you both have to be willing to make it work. The reason why you went through being a friend at first, and then after about 6 months, you list all the things you have in common, compared to all the things you don’t have in common, to being more than friends, the reason why you went through all of that is because now that you’re at the dating stage, you’ll be dating on easy mode. Cause here’s the thing, you found someone who is most like you. And because you have found someone that is most like you, the easier it will be to work through the differences that you have. In fact, you’ll probably get along so well, that any sort of difference between you 2 won’t really mean anything, because you have a lot in common. This is not to say everything is going to be sunshine and rainbows either, just like every couple, you’re going to disagree sometimes, and you’ll get into alot of verbal arguments. But as long as you both are willing to make it work, and have a firm enough foundation to where you can find common ground very easily, dating should not be hard. And then, of course, you’ll eventually get engaged and you’ll get married and you’ll have just a long and beautiful marriage!
Do you see why you start of Conditionally Loving? Cause #1, if you want a partner, you’re going to want to be with someone that you want right? I mean, if you marry someone, you may as well find someone that you want to be around. Because how this works is, you start off looking for certain physical traits that you want in a man or a woman. And then once you find someone you want physically, then you befriend them, and you remain really good friends at first. And then you make mental notes about what it is they like (or you can jot down things they like, if it would help you to remember what it is they like). And then after about 6 months of hanging out together, you can list out how many things you have in common compared to how many things you don’t have in common. And again, I stress, that when you list the things you have in common compared to the things you don’t have in common, you must have a significant amount of commonality than the amount you have different. So what that looks like would be like, having 20 things in common and only 2 things that are different. Make sure it’s like that, because it’ll boost your chances of being able to make something work. So after you do that, you’re either just gonna remain being their friend or if you have a significant amount in common and not as much that is different, you’re gonna ask if you can date them.
Now, a couple of things. It’s very possible that the other person doesn’t see you as a potential partner like you see them as a potential partner. So, it’s very possible that they will not date you. Don’t let that get you down. All you do is start over with someone else till you can find that special person.
Also, and this is a big one. Yes, it’s important to find someone physically that you want. But…when you get to the dating stage, and for some reason things aren’t working quite as good as you thought they would, that’s your cue to basically dump them. Don’t be afraid, people who are attractive have been known to use their good looks to their advantage. Don’t let that fool you. If it’s not working out, have the courage and the gumption to tell them that this is not working out and that you want to be just friends and that’s it. Remember, this is your life, and why would you waste your time with someone who you really don’t truly love? Life is about living to the fullest, and just like everyone else, you deserve to be happy as well. Don’t worry, there are plenty of men and women out there, and they always say that there’s someone for everyone. So…keep that in mind.
I hope this helps you in your search for true Unconditional Love. It’s possible, you just have to put in the work to find it.